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Blimey....he's a dangerous man. Domestic abusers cause deep, lasting trauma - and unless we're prepared for it (which no one ever is - let alone as a teenager) you can completely understand how people get manipulated, brainwashed and ultimately controlled by a fog of gaslighting and coercion. It's so important to talk about this stuff - especially with our kids to make them aware that this exists and what red flags to look out for - because they're always there, but most people don't know what they look like. (I think a family member of mine has been targetted and groomed by a man 32 years her senior since the age of 15 and it's absolutely terrifying). I am sure many many people reading this Ann will recognise behaviour like this and you sharing your story may help give them the courage to move on and get out. (although, - make a plan first and have someone with you! Abusive men like this can become incredibly dangerous when you try to leave them because they see you as property, not a person) Thanks for sharing your story Ann - you're awesome, I'm gutted for you that you ever had to go through this crap and if I ever met this guy, would happily let his tyres down for you!

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